Parents posting ‘child shaming’ videos of kid’s punishments sparks debate

first_imgiStock/Thinkstock(NEW YORK) — The number of parents using social media as a means to curb their child’s bad behavior has sparked a heated debate in the parenting community and raised alarm from some child psychologists.Last month, a Facebook Live video posted by Virginia father Bryan Thornhill, 33, of his 10-year-old son running a mile to school in the rain while he drove slowly behind him went viral.Utah passes ‘free-range parenting’ law, allowing kids to do some things without parental supervisionFrustrated teacher urges parents to stop ‘coddling and enabling their children’ in viral Facebook post“Welcome to ‘You better listen to your Dad 2018,’” Thornhill said in the clip. “This right here is just good old-fashioned parenting.”“He was being a little bully, which I do not tolerate, cannot stand,” Thornhill added in the video.Since being reposted on another Facebook page, the video of Thornhill’s son jogging to school in the rain has since garnered over 32 million views.“Since he’s been running to school this week his behavior has been much better,” Thornhill said in the video.Cierra Forney, a mother from Georgia, shared a photo of her son last month on Facebook, writing in the caption that she was making him shop for clothes at Goodwill after he started acting “entitled.”Forney wrote that he was “acting like he’s too good to shop at Walmart or making snarky comments about kids at school who shop at the Goodwill,” adding, “I don’t tolerate that.”The post of her son shopping at Goodwill as punishment soon garnered over 750,000 reactions and more than 270,000 shares.Forney told ABC News that she decided to discipline her son because he was “feeling like he’s better than the other kids at school because he gets name brand things, just making like snarky, rude, underlying remarks.”She added: “I don’t know if I changed my son forever, but I know that I will never sit back and watch him or any child bully or try to bully another child.”While both parents told ABC News that posting about their children being disciplined online was not a part of the punishment, that they weren’t intending to humiliate their children and that they had their kids’ permission before posting, some critics slammed the parents for publicly shaming the children.Dr. David Anderson, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute in New York City said that from a mental health perspective, these online posts could potentially be damaging.Anderson said most mental health professionals would not advise using shame as a tactic.When it comes to effective discipline, Anderson recommends that parents should be consistent about punishments and deliver them after a particular bad behavior. In addition, punishment should be delivered calmly, and in small doses at a time.This way, he says, parents can focus on properly addressing what their child did wrong, and focus on fixing the behavior that was incorrect so that the child’s behavior changes going forward.Copyright © 2018, ABC Radio. All rights reserved.last_img read more

Now is the time to take advantage of your data

first_img 2SHARESShareShareSharePrintMailGooglePinterestDiggRedditStumbleuponDeliciousBufferTumblr,Frank Koechlein Frank Koechlein is the President at Empower Your Analytics and coauthor of the marketing resource book “The New Marketing Analytics”. Frank has over 40 years of marketing experience in the … Web: empoweryouranalytics.com Details It’s safe to say that the member communications/marketing plans put in place for the first quarter of 2020 have long been forgotten.  Since March of this year the Coronavirus has been responsible for unprecedented transformations in almost every aspect of member marketing, communications and servicing.  The rapid pace of these changes has astonished and confounded the management teams of many credit unions.    In response to the pandemic, member product and service needs will rapidly shift over the next 12-24 months.  This shift will create market opportunities for financial institutions that can successfully pivot in the short term.  Successful credit unions are overlaying identified Coronavirus needs to their existing member segmentation.  This will become increasingly important as a broad group of members find themselves underbanked as a result of the pandemic. This strategy will position your organization for growth in both the intermediate and longer term.  The difficulty of getting this data is compounded by the unique set of operational challenges currently facing credit unions.    The opportunity presented by using this data is to redefine marketing strategies in the short-term and to be prepared for the eventual new normal.   Successful credit unions will take advantage of this short period of disruption, by deciphering shifts in member behaviors, and using this knowledge to build strategies that will impact longer-term product preferences and brand loyalties. There’s no previous experience to fall back on that will help guide your team on how to communicate with members during a period of time like the last 7 months.  Now it’s more important than ever to measure behaviors, when possible, and listen intently to your members.  In this time of flux it is important to use this information as the basis for adjustments to marketing, product and communications to meet these shifting needs.   The stakes are high, your members are adapting to a new reality that will impact their preferences for the products they need, advice and guidance, as well as, the voice of your brand. It’s important to begin identifying and measuring every possible individual shift in member behavior and testing to determine the impact of each to optimally manage member relationships.  For many credit unions this pivot is a big challenge.  The difficulty of this challenge is evidenced by the fact that many have made only modest adjustments to their pre-coronavirus marketing plans.  However, there are exceptions, Navy FCU under the leadership of Pam Piligian, SVP of Marketing & Communications has looked beyond the immediate operational challenges and used data to improve personalization.  This helps create a new focus on member experiences beyond just daily transactions.  It’s a great case study and can provide insights to help you navigate the current environment.The accelerated use of social media, mobile applications and digital marketing channels is directly tied to the increased need for remote member servicing.  In this environment the collection of data from member banking behaviors will be even more critical to understanding your member’s motives moving forward.  Less face-to-face member interactions offers less opportunities to “know” your members and is replaced by behavior tracking, data appends and research to create successful member programs.   The Coronavirus has your members struggling to find a safe and trusted place to find solutions.  Be careful to be very transparent with the way you use member data.  This area can have a downside and it’s possible to lose the trust of your members.  As consumers get fatigued with the lack of transparency surrounding the coronavirus they can become uncertain of your motives if they perceive you’re putting profits first and/or lack a strong community commitment. So in short, member data helps your organization develop targeted content; delivering truly relevant and useful communications to prospects and members.  The ability to target relevant content helps members solve their specific financial issues and, as a consequence, build trust in your brand. With the additional challenges of workplace safety, staffing and member servicing, building a data-driven strategy can seem like an impossible task for 2020.  We’ve created a relatively straightforward process and it’s articulated in the New Marketing Analytics a book I published David Dirks (VP Marketing at HVCU).  There is a project guide based on the book and it is a great project management tool for teams who want to begin using data.  If you would like a free e-copy, send me an email [[email protected]] and I will be happy to send one out to you.last_img read more